What's The Last Thing You Did Before Logging in Tsikot?

[_Cathy_]

Cathy. Dont lash on the other posters here. They are merely just chimming in.

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I am not lashing out.

If anything, NEVER KO TINIPID second Mom ko. I have sacrificed so much for my second Mom and for someone to imply that I am not taking care of her well enough, napakasakit nun.

Napakalaki ng respeto ko sa elderly, I am surrounded by them. And to be told opposite, nakakaiyak talaga. And honestly I am so EXHAUSTED these past few days. Sabay sabay pa problema ko, yung best buddy ko na kausap ko araw at kasama ko when I take breaks, resigned na. Sometimes I feel like I am gonna suffer a nervous breakdown.

[ninjababez]

I am not lashing out.

If anything, NEVER KO TINIPID second Mom ko. I have sacrificed so much for my second Mom and for someone to imply that I am not taking care of her well enough, napakasakit nun.

Napakalaki ng respeto ko sa elderly, I am surrounded by them. And to be told opposite, nakakaiyak talaga. And honestly I am so EXHAUSTED these past few days. Sabay sabay pa problema ko, yung best buddy ko na kausap ko araw at kasama ko when I take breaks, resigned na. Sometimes I feel like I am gonna suffer a nervous breakdown.

dr.d never mentioned naman yata nor implied na tinipid mo yun 2nd mom mo. he wants you to spend the money, FOR YOURSELF. nakakaawa kana eh

[chronicle]

No one is implying na di mo inaalagaan ang 2nd mo. Dont know where you get that. Must be double vision or not

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[_Cathy_]

dr.d never mentioned naman yata nor implied na tinipid mo yun 2nd mom mo. he wants you to spend the money, FOR YOURSELF. nakakaawa kana eh

But I find it extremely ridiculous to hire a caregiver for something that my second Mom can very well do herself. Hindi naman siya inutil or limot limot.

Hands on ako sa second Mom, pwede naman na driver na lang at Tita ko sumama sa kanya sa hospital BUT I will not and cannot do that to her because I want to be on top of everything. All I ask is a little cooperation. Nakikita ko kasi na hindi niya sinusunod sinasabi ng doctor e.

[remzam]

Yes Cath. Everyone here simply wants to help you. In different ways. Giving/showing you options you might not have considered.

In the few years I spent here, I noticed you are very loyal and you stick to habits. That can be a good thing. That can also be a bad thing. Sometimes, because of that, you become stubborn. Maybe a brat. One-track minded.

We are simply offering alternatives based on your "paglalabas ng sama ng loob" dito sa Tsikot.

So wag mo personalin mga tao dito. We also want to help a "stranger" like you. Though, spending time in Tsikot, eh halos "kakilala" ka na namin.

Now going back to your mom. Kung di naman pala fatal... What happens if she stops taking the meds?

Kasi kung ayaw nung matanda at ayaw nya tulungan sarili nya, just let her be. Baka you'll do more of a favor to her. Quality of life. Quality time. Kumbaga palliative na lang. Maybe you'll do more to her and also to yourself. Di ka gagastos ng malaki, makakatulog ka ng mahaba. Mag kaka time ka sa mga boylets (joke lang. Tawa konti masyado seryoso tong thread na to eh )

Ano ba ginagawa nya? Baka kasi she see no worth in her life already. Kasi tapos ka na nya palakihin, anu pa silbi nya sa bahay nyo? Tapos makikita ka pa nya nagagalit sa kanya. Matampuhin ang mga matatanda.

Try mo bigyan sya ng pagkaka abalahan. Something for her to see her worth. Wag sa harap lang ng tv at telenobela maghapon. Something may worth. A new hobby. Or a new hubby. hanapin mo kung ano hilig nya. O yung gusto nya gawin nung bata sya pero di nagawa dahil sa pag aalaga sayo. Or ilabas mo sya. Makalanghap man ng sariwang hangin. Make her busy again. So she sees her life worth saving.

Otherwise, kung ipipilit mo lang gusto mo, without trying to understand her side, you'll just get frustrated. And di matatapos ang pag post mo dito ng sama ng loob. At iiyak at iiyak ka lang.

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[ninjababez]

No one is implying na di mo inaalagaan ang 2nd mo. Dont know where you get that. Must be double vision or not

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mukhang grabe na iniisip ni cathy, ang dami rin kasi. work, SO, 2nd mom, 1st mom, other family, wala na friend sa office etc. mabuti nga wala na si crush sa usapan, kungdi baka mas malala pa.

*cathy, di ko alam kung magkano ang kinikita mo; pero ulitin ko lang, may mga cheap yaya dyan na 6k a month or minimum kung daily rate (500?) pag medyo pagod kana and di mo maasikaso. ganun lang yun ka-simple.
wag ka magagalit ha, pero feeling ko takot ka mapagalitan ni dr. cutie pag nakita napabayaan mo si 2nd mom

[_Cathy_]

mukhang grabe na iniisip ni cathy, ang dami rin kasi. work, SO, 2nd mom, 1st mom, other family, wala na friend sa office etc. mabuti nga wala na si crush sa usapan, kungdi baka mas malala pa.

*cathy, di ko alam kung magkano ang kinikita mo; pero ulitin ko lang, may mga cheap yaya dyan na 6k a month or minimum kung daily rate (500?) pag medyo pagod kana and di mo maasikaso. ganun lang yun ka-simple.
wag ka magagalit ha, pero feeling ko takot ka mapagalitan ni dr. cutie pag nakita napabayaan mo si 2nd mom

Sana nga andito si crush kasi he makes me feel better. Nung na confine second Mom ko last year, he kept me sane.

Matagal na kami naghahanap ng stay in na maid pero wala. If only my second mom would cooperate e di sana less stress diba?

Hindi ako takot mapagalitan ni Dr Cutie, 2015 nagsimula yung sakit ng second Mom ko and I have taken her to numerous doctors at pati accupuncture pinatulan ko na. Minsan nga naawa rin ako sa Mommy ko kasi I don't give her much attention anymore.

Since 2015, NEVER ako nakapag travel. 2016 may expat assignment dapat ako BUT I hesitated kasi nga inaalalo ko second Mom ko. I have sacrificed a lot for her kaya NAPAKASAKIT ma imply that I am not doing enough. And I am thinking of giving up my green card para sa kanya rin.

Sana lang tulungan niya sarili niya para gumaling na siya.

[_Cathy_]

No one is implying na di mo inaalagaan ang 2nd mo. Dont know where you get that. Must be double vision or not

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Na misinterpret ko ba si dr d? Kasi ang intindi ko what I am doing for my second mom isn't enough...

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[ninjababez]

^kung kailangan mo yaya for your 2nd mom, yun dati kong yaya 40s na (or early 50s). OK yun mag alaga and after nya sa akin, puro seniors nya inaalagaan nya. and since masipag at ayaw ng downtime, pati sa gawain bahay tumutulong yun. IIRC 500 a day lang ang rate nya.

[_Cathy_]

tbh I wouldn't care so much pag yung tao mismo walang paki hehe.

"Help me help you"

Hindi ko siya kayang tiisin

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