Divorce in the Philippines - are you in favor or not?

**ghosthunter** · May 25th, 2012 05:10 PM

Originally Posted by timrev

di ako pabor sa divorce bill na yan...dadami lang ang broken family sa pinas... madami naman batas jan na pagtuuunan nila ng pansin hindi yan...pagkakagastusan lang goverment yan...

With or without a divorce law, broken families will be broken families. If the husband and wife cannot anymore get along with each other or trust each other, the marriage is finished. No matter of counselling or whatever activity will change that.

If we have a divorce law, the benefit is that both parties can get to continue with their lives instead of living in a pretend family.

**timrev** · May 25th, 2012 05:12 PM

meron nga annulment parang divorce narin yun hayaan nyo magdusa yun mga gusto makipaghiwalay jan...yun ang ginusto nila e..ang divorce ay pinadaling annulment...well opinion ko ho iyon ayaw ko ng divorce bill. kaya yun mga magpapakasal jan magisip na muna...

**ghosthunter** · May 25th, 2012 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by niky

Annulment? Ever tried it? Takes forever, and takes a s***load of money. Even worse, the one who has to file for annulment after being left behind is left to foot the bill.

At last re-conning, annulment takes at least two years and around P300,000 in fees. This does not include the amount for "miscellaneous" fees that you will be needing which is at least the same amount you'll be spending in legal fees.

**ghosthunter** · May 25th, 2012 05:26 PM

Originally Posted by timrev

meron nga annulment parang divorce narin yun hayaan nyo magdusa yun mga gusto makipaghiwalay jan...yun ang ginusto nila e..ang divorce ay pinadaling annulment...well opinion ko ho iyon ayaw ko ng divorce bill. kaya yun mga magpapakasal jan magisip na muna...

So what happens to the victim of the marriage? In my case, I caught my ex-wife cheating on me. So do I spend the rest of my life married to a woman I do not anymore consider my wife? Someone that I cannot trust yet I am legally bound to?

The days I spent with my ex-wife trying to fix a broken marriage were the most traumatic ones I have in recent memory. You end up at your wits end thinking and thinking of how do "we" get over this yet you know you cannot anymore trust her. Without trust, everything else crumbles. Before letting our parents know, we pretended everything was fine when we had family gatherings. So FAKE! We had to lie to our families about us on a weekly basis. That is not what I wanted in a married life!

I would rather have to freedom to choose to start over and find the right woman to be my wife and care for each other.

**niky** · May 25th, 2012 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by timrev

meron nga annulment parang divorce narin yun hayaan nyo magdusa yun mga gusto makipaghiwalay jan...yun ang ginusto nila e..ang divorce ay pinadaling annulment...well opinion ko ho iyon ayaw ko ng divorce bill. kaya yun mga magpapakasal jan magisip na muna...

You obviously haven't been reading what we've posted.

Annulment is not a divorce. The only grounds for annulment are psychological incapacity.

If your spouse is unfaithful, abusive, womanizing, has another family or simply ups and leaves... these are not grounds for annulment. You will have to prove psychological incapacity... which is difficult. I have an in-law who was left after the wedding nearly twenty years ago, who still can't get on with her life or legally re-marry.

If you've never been in a broken home or seen a broken home firsthand, you wouldn't understand it.

Divorce can be filed on grounds of unfaithfulness, adultery or abandonment. You can seek legal recompense from your spouse. Divorce is not an "easy way out" because the property gets subdivided up. It's good defense for a wife who was left for another woman.

Fine for you if you're satisfied with your marriage. But what right do you have to deny people resolution and the chance of a fresh start?

We're not asking for divorce to enable the unfaithful or the weak to weasel out of a contract. Divorce is a way to make them accountable for the broken contract.

**Ry_Tower** · May 25th, 2012 05:39 PM

Originally Posted by ghosthunter

So what happens to the victim of the marriage? In my case, I caught my ex-wife cheating on me. So do I spend the rest of my life married to a woman I do not anymore consider my wife? Someone that I cannot trust yet I am legally bound to?

The days I spent with my ex-wife trying to fix a broken marriage were the most traumatic ones I have in recent memory. You end up at your wits end thinking and thinking of how do "we" get over this yet you know you cannot anymore trust her. Without trust, everything else crumbles. Before letting our parents know, we pretended everything was fine when we had family gatherings. So FAKE! We had to lie to our families about us on a weekly basis. That is not what I wanted in a married life!

I would rather have to freedom to choose to start over and find the right woman to be my wife and care for each other.

We'll, there is forgiveness. Trust, yan ang medyo complicated and very subjective.

**ghosthunter** · May 25th, 2012 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by Ry_Tower

We'll, there is forgiveness. Trust, yan ang medyo complicated and very subjective.

How can you trust when everytime she gets a SMS message or does her email, you are left suspiciously thinking who is she communicating with? Can you trust your money to someone who robbed your house?

**timrev** · May 25th, 2012 05:54 PM

well kikita goverment jan hahaha

**Ry_Tower** · May 25th, 2012 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by ghosthunter

How can you trust when everytime she gets a SMS message or does her email, you are left suspiciously thinking who is she communicating with? Can you trust your money to someone who robbed your house?

That is why I said forgiveness is part of it. Until you have really forgiven someone, trust will always be an issue. Forgiveness first then trust.

**ghosthunter** · May 25th, 2012 06:00 PM

Originally Posted by Ry_Tower

That is why I said forgiveness is part of it. Until you have really forgiven someone, trust will always be an issue. Forgiveness first then trust.

I might be able to forgive but I am definitely not trusting her again, especially what I uncovered when I was digging for more information.

Like I said, can you trust your money to someone who robbed your house?