Having a Baby Before Marriage! Still a Big Deal?

[juntzo]

my gf told me something that surprised me. she said that her teaching job might end soon if the school will find out that she's pregnant and unmarried! WTF! is it really that bad? maybe i've been away too long. it's a private college for crying out loud!

sorry for my rantings here but that really sucks! that's really my issue here if any of you misunderstands me. i'm not trying to wiggle out my responsiblity. i love my gf very much. it's just that i hate it when my decisions are affected by what others may think!

anyway we are planning a very private civil wedding soon!

[LadyRider]

my gf told me something that surprised me. she said that her teaching job might end soon if the school will find out that she's pregnant and unmarried! WTF! is it really that bad? maybe i've been away too long. it's a private college for crying out loud!

sorry for my rantings here but that really sucks! that's really my issue here if any of you misunderstands me. i'm not trying to wiggle out my responsiblity. i love my gf very much. it's just that i hate it when my decisions are affected by what others may think!

anyway we are planning a very private civil wedding soon!

Hay naku Sir juntzo. Minsan talaga napaka un-called for ang mga rules and regulations ng ibang mga private schools. Minsan nga I find it an irony kase kahit naman ibang mga estudyante nila eh they get pregnant ng wala sa oras diba? Tapos wala naman sila magawa dun.

Anyway, I sympathize with you. Unfair naman talaga for your gf yun kase syempre, being a teacher is a very noble profession. Di lahat ng tao capable of teaching and am sure you are proud of her. Tapos dahil lang buntis sya ng hindi kasal eh tatanggalin sya sa work. That's a bit too much na!

Good that you are planning a civil wedding soon! God bless you both and I know you'll make it through!

[av8or5]

Juntzo my man, Congratulations!

"Pre-Marital Baby" acceptance will depend on the family mindset but believe me, if ever it becomes a big thing for them, IT WILL ONLY BE TEMPORARY . Don't ever let them break you both down with their lectures about what is right or wrong; the most important thing is the both of you guys will go through this together, no matter what.

Mark my words. When the baby comes out, lahat yan matutunaw and baka mag-agawan pa yan to give the angel their love .

Having a baby is not a curse but a blessing that not everyone, even the married ones, can have.

i totally agree. my sister got pregnant at an early age, not married. its still filipino culture that they dont want others to talk about them. as for the thread starter, go with your feelings, dont make decisions because of what others might say or think about you and your gf. when my nephew came out...all my relatives nag-agawan to play with the kid. so it turned out positive in the end. talks will be there, but it will subside in months or years....but your decision will last a lifetime.

good luck and be strong for both of you.

[freefries]

my gf told me something that surprised me. she said that her teaching job might end soon if the school will find out that she's pregnant and unmarried! WTF! is it really that bad? maybe i've been away too long. it's a private college for crying out loud!

anyway we are planning a very private civil wedding soon!

that's reality...sa code of ethics ng teacher ay kailangan ay maging role model ka sa estudyante mo, paano ka magiging role model kung nabuntis ka pero di ka nagpakasal, anong magiging impact nun sa estudyante????

OO at marami nga ang nabubuntis na estudyante na underage but kung sabihin nila eh bakit si teacher nabuntis wala namang asawa, kaya ang mga school di sila tumatanggap ng loophole, anything na makakasira sa reputation nila lalo na at private inaalis nila yun...tsaka alam yan ng gf mo before sya pumasok sa school para magturo nasa code of ethics yan, if im not mistaken..

Pero meron naman ibang company na tumatanggap ng ganung situation kasi open minded na sila pero ang school very strict sila sa pamantayan coz mga bata ang tinuturuan nila ng tama hindi mali..di ko sinabing mali yung nangyari sa inyo kasi nabuntis din naman ako before married eh...

Well kung di ka ba talaga handa sa desisyon mo to marry your gf despite the fact that you love her so much, eh di pagpaliban mo muna, minsan ego na rin yang nasasaktan sa yo dahil pakiramdam mo naunahan ka sa dapat na magiging desisyon mo..sadly ganyan ang ibang lalaki..

Kung itutuloy mo naman ang pagpapakasal, na sya namang dapat para di naman ma feel ng gf mo na bale wala lang sya sa yo kahit ba many times mong sabihin na you love her, ganun ang magiging feelings nya, maniwala ka sa akin...goodluck and best wishes to both of you:marriage:

[juntzo]

that's reality...sa code of ethics ng teacher ay kailangan ay maging role model ka sa estudyante mo, paano ka magiging role model kung nabuntis ka pero di ka nagpakasal, anong magiging impact nun sa estudyante????

OO at marami nga ang nabubuntis na estudyante na underage but kung sabihin nila eh bakit si teacher nabuntis wala namang asawa, kaya ang mga school di sila tumatanggap ng loophole, anything na makakasira sa reputation nila lalo na at private inaalis nila yun...tsaka alam yan ng gf mo before sya pumasok sa school para magturo nasa code of ethics yan, if im not mistaken..

Pero meron naman ibang company na tumatanggap ng ganung situation kasi open minded na sila pero ang school very strict sila sa pamantayan coz mga bata ang tinuturuan nila ng tama hindi mali..di ko sinabing mali yung nangyari sa inyo kasi nabuntis din naman ako before married eh...

maybe if this is highschool or elementary, but it's a private computer college for crying out loud! she's teaching programming not sociology or ethics!

anyway thanks for the kind words! as i said we are having a private civil ceremony very soon!

[zeus17]

Juntzo my man, Congratulations!

"Pre-Marital Baby" acceptance will depend on the family mindset but believe me, if ever it becomes a big thing for them, IT WILL ONLY BE TEMPORARY . Don't ever let them break you both down with their lectures about what is right or wrong; the most important thing is the both of you guys will go through this together, no matter what.

Mark my words. When the baby comes out, lahat yan matutunaw and baka mag-agawan pa yan to give the angel their love .

Having a baby is not a curse but a blessing that not everyone, even the married ones, can have.

Right and wrong...
IMHO lng ha
Ryt and qwrong is a standard made by people to justify things and action...
black and white ba..

pero life is is not black and white...its more or less gray and colorful..hahaha

seriously
depende yan sau pre..bsta masaya ka at hindi mo pagsisihan later on go...

kasi more often than not..ung mali sa tingin ng iba e tama sa paningin mo..
at ung tama ngaun e pdeng mali bukas and vice versa

follow ur heart and instincts

[pup2]

+1 although I don't really care kung ginagawa ng iba..but for any of my lady family members, I won't allow it.....first prang if a man asked a lady to live with him instead na yayain magpaksasal parang hinde niya talaga mahal yun girl or hinde niya nirerespeto...for me laging disadvantage sa babae ang living in...

kung mahal mo pakasalan mo.... no pun to the TS

I agree on this. Besides, kawawa siya if, say, namatay ka, she's preggy at di natuloy ang kasal. Rare, I agree, but I'm sure its happened to someone.

[niwde11]

anyway thanks for the kind words! as i said we are having a private civil ceremony very soon!

congrats bro. its a blessing. but dont forget the invitation kahit private ang ceremony. private din naman tayo sa tsikot.

[juntzo]

hehehe... i'm not in metro manila but in the visayas!

[HyBrideVo]

uy una nabuntis pa lang tapos heto kasalan na ayus! congrats! :shake: