Having a Baby Before Marriage! Still a Big Deal?

[oldblue]

Actually we have plans to get married by May next year. But now i think she will have second thoughts of wearing a wedding gown with a big tummy!
Anyway we still have to talk about it more!

actually eto talaga main apprehensions niya the relative alibi is just scapegoat

[Flagg]

Boss juntzo, with regard to relatives:
They only matter if sila ang nagpapakain sa inyo... so kung may mag-comment dyan, hingi ka ng meal allowance... tingnan mo, di ka na papansinin.

With regard to bridal gown:
Agahan mo nalang yung kasal. Up to 5 months, di pa halata...

With regard to live-in:
I think it's a good idea to try out muna before committing.

[knight23]

no big deal if you can/will support the child and you are already in a long-term relationship.

big deal if you can't support the child (ie: you are financially not ready and need your parents support), immature and are affected by the views and opinions of the "conservative" people.

[uls]

if the concern is the big tummy while wearing the wedding gown, then have the church wedding AFTER having the baby

[66bunny]

if the concern is the big tummy while wearing the wedding gown, then have the church wedding AFTER having the baby

Agree.

Have a friend who got married after 4 years NUNG nanganak ang girl. Ring bearer pa ang bata. Cute.

[Linkk]

no big deal na sa tingin ko ngayon, ang importante pakakasalan mo naman. madami akong kilala sa work ko dati (MNC) buntis na yung mga girl bago ikasal.
naalala ko tuloy sabi ng friend ko dati kung gusto mo daw makatipid sa kasal buntisin mo muna daw yung girl kase papayag na raw parents nun kahit ano na lang basta mapakasalan lang daw yung anak nila

[LadyRider]

There is no question about our commitment to each other! As i said we have already a plan (although not definite yet!) to get married. This is just being complicated by her being pregnant. My issue is about her fears about her relatives. I'm ready to face it though don't get me wrong. I'm just annoyed that this is still a big deal in our day and age!

Siguro maganda nyan sir eh just be blunt about it. I know this is harsh but I think "SHOCK & AWE!" is the best solution to the realtives! (hehehehe)

[mazdamazda]

Bro, here's a relatively simple solution...

Civil wedding for the meantime... then plan your church wedding a year or two after the baby is born. It doesn't matter if it's a civil or church wedding just as long as you are married (if that's what your gf is concerned).

[juntzo]

Bro, here's a relatively simple solution...

Civil wedding for the meantime... then plan your church wedding a year or two after the baby is born. It doesn't matter if it's a civil or church wedding just as long as you are married (if that's what your gf is concerned).

We are going to do this!
Thanks tsikoteers!

[mazdamazda]

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