How to Tell if a Man is Serious or Playing Games?

[_Cathy_]

She can be a catch

But still have red flags

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I don't see any flaw in her except that she's boring hehe

kahit 1000X mo sabihin great catch ung friend mo it won't matter coz di naman ikaw ang liligaw sa kanya

hayaan mo mga lalake mag assess

so far it seems nobody bothers to find out if she's a good catch

Kasi nga hindi niyo pa kilala na judge niyo na Tanungin ko nga si manyak officemate ano assessment niya HAHAHA!

Ang intindi ko tingin niyo she is not a good catch kasi single pa siya at her age

[ray_noel]

Di ba nga Ray, kapag hindi ka binibigyan ng time kailangan mag-move forward na.. Ang sinisend kasi na signal nun, hindi committed sayo yung tao.. Kapag wala na ibang efforts, hanggang ganun na lang yun.. [emoji28][emoji12][emoji1787]
Mr. Casanova ng tsikot.. [emoji1787][emoji1308]hindi naman ibig sabihin na ikaw first nila nag-practice lang.. hindi lang talaga nag-work.. dun tayo sa gasgas na kasabihan, "it takes two to tango"..
Parang nagkaroon pala ng negative connotation yung "practice"..
practice = manloko / manakit ng damdamin / no intention to commit into relationship.. Hindi ito ang ibig kong sabihin..
Nabanggit ko lang yung "pag-practisan nya muna si guy" kasi parang hindi sanay yung friend ni Ms. Cathy sa flirting stage.. Nag-overthink na siya na magkaka-anak nga sila dahil sa mga sinabi din ni app guy.. Kaya naisip ko na mag-practice muna siya makipag-interact/makipag-flirt.. pati na din sa iba pang guys na nasa dating site/app.. madi-discover nya na may pattern.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23]
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Ok lang din ang magka-experience at masaktan.. Pero dapat sa bawat chapter nagma-mature at natututo.. May mga tao na kahit nakailang relationships na, mahaba man or maikli.. Hindi pa din nila alam kung ano ang magwu-work sa kanila para magkaroon ng healthy relationship..

Teka lang misseks, nasubokan mo na yung tinder na sinasabi nila? Dun ka nag prapractice ? Hehehe... joke!

Baka ma swipe mo si kags, hehehehe... pero di ka type nun, mga cougars hilig yata ni kags...

Last break up ko is when she said na study first muna daw siya... after that, hindi na din ako nanligaw... happy life naman ako now, i think yung guy parang same kami ng phase, yung pag meron gusto eh di meron, if wala then wala... Nag lapse na yata chance ng guy para sa girl...

Parang merong list si guy and time frame...
1
2
3
4
5
And so on....

Pag tapos na time sa isang girl, move on na sa next...

Pero si girl, parang hidni pa rin naka move-on kung bakit siya ginanun ng guy kaya hoping pa rin and todo effort para mapansin... which is i think meron din ganun na type ng girl, the more you make ignore them the more eager sila sayo...

Hanep gwapo problem si guy!!!


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[uls]

Kaya nga it frustrates me that she is great gal pero hirap siya to find love, samantalang yung ibang malalandi na wala naman values (cheater, promiscuous, at user etc) ang daming lalaki, at sila pa nanloloko ha!

kasi tinuro sa inyo ng mga madre kailangan maging disente, prim&proper para magustuhan ng lalake

then you convent-bred girls entered the real world and saw girls behave completely opposite of what you were taught and they're able to attract men

so yes i understand your frustration

[misseksaherada]

OT: Natatawa na lang ako..
Kapag late 30s single hindi na good catch..

Late 30s Single = Hindi ligawin [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]
Married young = Is a catch, higher value than most of the single ladies on their late 30s
Hindi ba pwedeng single by choice..
Hindi ba pwedeng single because men are too intimidated by her beauty, confidence and intellect.. Na pati sila kinakain ng insecurities kaya hindi nya kayang ligawan..
Hindi ba pwede na marami naman nanliligaw pero hindi nga mag-work..

[uls]

Ang intindi ko tingin niyo she is not a good catch kasi single pa siya at her age

sabi ko may diperensya siya

lahat ng opinion dito based sa information na binibigay mo

ikaw ang nagsabi di siya ligawin

so baket di siya ligawin?

anong meron?

may nakaka turn off ba sa kanya?

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wag mo na i-compare siya dun sa isang kaibigan mo na nakapag asawa at 38

sabi mo madami lumigaw diyan puro busted

eh itong si weirdo madami ba lumigaw sa kanya?

doon palang magkaiba na sila

stop comparing her to the other friend

[uls]

Late 30s Single = Hindi ligawin

maari teenager palang di na ligawin

meron talaga mga babae di ligawin

Hindi ba pwedeng single by choice..

gusto na nga mag asawa

Hindi ba pwedeng single because men are too intimidated by her beauty, confidence and intellect.. Na pati sila kinakain ng insecurities kaya hindi nya kayang ligawan..

maari... kaya di siya ligawin

pero nagkaroon ng 10 yr relationship with a guy who took her for granted

seems like the guy wasn't intimidated

not only that, the guy was so confident that no matter how badly he treated her he knows she won't leave him

Hindi ba pwede na marami naman nanliligaw pero hindi nga mag-work..

si cathy ang nagsabi di ligawin ang kaibigan niya

[shadow]

OT: Natatawa na lang ako..
Kapag late 30s single hindi na good catch..

Late 30s Single = Hindi ligawin [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]
Married young = Is a catch, higher value than most of the single ladies on their late 30s
Hindi ba pwedeng single by choice..
Hindi ba pwedeng single because men are too intimidated by her beauty, confidence and intellect.. Na pati sila kinakain ng insecurities kaya hindi nya kayang ligawan..
Hindi ba pwede na marami naman nanliligaw pero hindi nga mag-work..

Hinde siya good catch not because she's still single but because she's a weirdo.

Paano magiging good catch ang weirdo?

Tapos yun second BF (?) iniwan siya para sa ibang babae? Bakit? Again kasi nga weirdo.

Eh lahat ng details galing kay cathy. Unang basa ko pa lang, first thing na pumasok sa isip ko. Sobrang weird naman ng babae na ito.

Tama sabi ni uls good catch para kay cathy pero hinde naman siya ang liligaw. Saka iba perspective niya as a woman and as a friend. Kesa sa akin mga lalake at hinde siya kilala. Big chance na mga lalake na na meet siya same ng impression sa amin lahat dito.


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[misseksaherada]

Teka lang misseks, nasubokan mo na yung tinder na sinasabi nila? Dun ka nag prapractice ? Hehehe... joke!

OT: Na try ko na Tinder mga 5 years ago siguro yun, saglit lang.. At ang nakakatawa nakita ko guy friend ko dun na married na.. ni swipe ko nga, tawa kami nagkita kami dun.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23] inasar ko nga, pampalipas oras daw.. Mga lalaki talaga..
May mga lalaki dun na naka-premium kahit di mag match pwede mag-message.. Nakalagay na nga sa profile ko ayaw ko may tattoo at foreigner pero lagi foreigner o di kaya may tattoo yung masipag mag-message.. [emoji28] Kaya sinukuan ko na, hindi sakin magwu-work Tinder..
Na-engganyo ako mag-try kasi yung guy friend ko dun niya na-meet yung gf niya, fiance niya ngayon at ikakasal na soon..

[uls]

yes shadow ung maganda para kay cathy boring para sakin

iba ang tingin ng lalake

[_Cathy_]

Di ako believer ng long-term dating relationship unless high school sweet hearts kayo. If a guy is dating a girl exclusively for a long time and nothing improves after 5 years, then it’s not a good sign. Even more so if the guy and girl are both professionals. This means either one is not ready to make the next great leap - marriage.

I would understand if the guy and girl plan for certain milestomes over certain periods. They maybe saving for something. However, if they just do the usual bf-gf stuff for more than 5 years, then it’s more like for convenience. Maybe they just enjoy each other’s company and the *** but they couldn’t commit to something deeper.

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4 yrs naman threshold na sinabi sakin ng BFF ko (I was in my early 20s when I learned about this)

I did tell my friend na if both are of marrying age na and its been more than 4 yrs and the guy has not popped the question e dapat mag isip na babae

kasi tinuro sa inyo ng mga madre kailangan maging disente, prim&proper para magustuhan ng lalake

then you convent-bred girls entered the real world and saw girls behave completely opposite of what you were taught and they're able to attract men

so yes i understand your frustration

I dated men naman in my teens and 20s nga lang

I called manyak officemate na! hahaha! He's not the best person to ask kasi he likes my friend because he's into big boobs but anyway here is what he said.

What is attractive about her: Maganda katawan, innocent looking and seems vulnerable that you want to protect her
CON: She has a tendency to be boring. Why daw? She is conservative by nature. Eto hirit ng friend ko

"walang excitement sa babae na eto"
"hindi mo madadala sa motel" - I CAN CONFIRM