Having a Baby Before Marriage! Still a Big Deal?

[juntzo]

My gf of 5 years and I have been living together for almost a year now. Today she missed her period and she thinks she is pregnant. For me it's a wonderful thing! But for her, she has some apprehensions that some of her relatives will not approve!

I will marry her anytime of course. No problem. But what annoys me is that thing about what others will think of us having a baby before getting married. We are both professionals and have good jobs that pays well. We are also very much of legal age!

Here in the Philippines, is it still a big deal to have a baby before getting married? What do you think?

[shadow]

pare naman...tell your GF ano pa bang apprehension niya sa sasbihin ng mga relatives niya eh 5 yrs na kayo nag live in.....

I think it's a not an issue....it's kinda expected if you asked me....living in for 5 yrs...kung hinde nabuntis baka doon pa ako magtaka...

[juntzo]

pare naman...tell your GF ano pa bang apprehension niya sa sasbihin ng mga relatives niya eh 5 yrs na kayo nag live in.....

I think it's a not an issue....it's kinda expected if you asked me....living in for 5 yrs...kung hinde nabuntis baka doon pa ako magtaka...

living together for 1 year pa lang! most of her relatives in the province does not know about it! clear ko lang. probinsiyana eh!

[GlennSter]

depends on what society you belong too.

gaya nga ng sabi mo.probinsyanas are most probably expected to be more maria-clara parin. mas conservative parin kahit papaano.

[shadow]

:oops: sorry, hinde ko nabasang mabuti...to hell with them buhay niyo naman yan eh,

well, since you said you will marry her in a heartbeat, then why don't you do it now? so no need for you to think what others will say...

[mazdamazda]

IMO - it's still a big deal here in the Philippines especially in the rural areas. Well, you can't blame her relatives for thinking like that if that is their culture (I'm hoping that you also considered that before you did "it").

If you can't stand the disapproving relatives or gossip flying around - then just keep your pants up until you get married.

[the_wildthing]

Personally, I think it is a big deal. But that is just me.

Having said that, please understand I am not imposing this on you nor anyone. And you should not let anyone impose values on you. What others think do not matter when it comes to things like this. You have to ask yourself what do YOU value, personally? Does it matter to you? Is it a big deal to you? If it isn't, then tapos ang usapan.

The other thing is, dapat magkasundo kayo ng values.

[empy]

not a big deal for me. but i echo the sentiment that i'm not about to impose my view on others.

if it's very important to you what other people think, then marry her. because it's inevitable that some people will disapprove. if you really don't care, then marry her when you are ready.

[boydapa]

haay naku hwag ka magpapaniwala at pauuto sa mga relatives nyan. gaya ng sabi nila buhay nyo yan. pagnagpadala ka sa mga gzto nyan kakayan kayanin ka lng ng mga yan! kng may tiwala ka sa sarili mo at sa mga desisyon mo hwag mo na intindihin yon para looking back yrs from now di ka magsisisi sa mga ginawa mo. ipakita mo ang iyong angas parang yan subaru pag galit na galit walang inuurungan. haay naku maniwala ka galing me dyan kaya eto i deserve this

[FrankDrebin]

Deadma lang yaan. Take it from me.