My friend is in a real dilemma and I told her that she should be getting advise from men and not SINGLE WOMEN like me Natawa ako sa message niya, I was a serial dater and I am not proud of it, but that doesn't mean I am experienced with men. Normally, I would ask my "constant" men in my life but they are now all gone after almost 20 yrs

Since majority of the members here are men, I think this is the best place to ask. My friend came from a catholic school for girls (Paulinian) and only had a 10+ yr relationship with her first BF tapos wala na after. She signed up for a dating app recently because her goal is to settle down (this is UF all over again) She is a unicorn in the dating app world - dalaga and as normal as one could get (looks, job and family) She is maputi and has a large chest so physically she's a catch

Six weeks ago, she started chatting with a guy and I found the specs unbelievable - late 30s, works for an intl org, true blue Atenean from GS to college, then took a second degree then took MBA with latin honors! WTF diba? The guy is quite near the batch of guys I dated pero dyaje namin mag investigate diba? I didn't even believe the specs at first so I asked my friend for the FB of the guy and we had mutual friends (school checks out) I also suspect that the guy is married since he has not added my friend on FB but then all the photos and comments point to single. So could it be that the guy is also a unicorn in the dating app? Guy has photos all over US, Europe and Asia, so his claim that he has travelled the world for work checks out as well. My friend told me he came from a modest background and was a full scholar so he focused on his career first and all his relationships were short term BUT BUT BUT here are the things that made me duda

1. Late 30s successful single Atenean on a dating app
2. Took him 3 weeks to make the first call to my friend
3. Has not asked my friend to meet (or add her on FB)
4. Only chats through messenger and RARELY makes calls
5. Not much late night messages

Yung late night calls, that's one of my tests if a guy is truly single e, kasi I have married guy friends, I sometimes chat with until past midnight, like my office buddy pero pag Manila based at hindi ka matawagan ng late night telebabad duda na ko But then his profile looks single

Anyway, my friend said that the guy started calling her babe and she reciprocated naman I told her e I only call someone babe if we are romantic na, at the MINIMUM MU e sila they are just friends. The guy also made a comment na since he is a scholar in Ateneo dapat scholar din magiging anak nila. He also said na family na lang missing in his life. My friend is conservative pala so when he made a green joke, my friend immediately told him that it made her uncomfortable. So I am thinking that the guy is testing how far he could get away with my friend. But if he is truly interested why did it take so long for him to make a call? They don't even know each other's mobile number? I have ZERO experience in dating apps, but is that the norm now?!?!

Prior to this guy, she dated a single Dad OFW who had custody of the daughter. I was so AGAINST this guy dahil dalaga friend ko! Anyway, good thing that the single dad left her for a single Mom (Daig ng malandi ang maganda!) Her first BF naman came from a very modest background and has no career, I also did not approve of that first BF because he had no ambition. I told her if this Atenean guy is the real deal - single and self made, then I approve! Swerte nga magiging BF ng friend ko because she is SUPER sweet, maalaga, motherly. low maintenance and NOT materialistic at all! The mere fact that she went for her BF of 10 yrs even if he had nothing to offer says a lot

So, what's on this guy's mind? Is he playing with my friend lang? Told my friend to give it 3 mos, pag walang progress (meet up) then she could ask him what's his plan ba talaga? But I also told her to entertain other guys pa rin and not focus on the guy too much, don't show him that she fell hard for him na!

HAY!!! So this is what they say that marriage is pag lagay sa tahimik. It is really very hard to be in the dating scene