Living with My Family while Raising my own Family

[marktams86]

Ang hirap pala talaga maki tira sa parents mo when you're raising your family as well.. Such a tough balancing act to accomplish.. You do not know when to be the good son/ brother of your parents and siblings or the strong father and husband for your wife/daughter. I feel like i'm becoming distant to my family kahit nasa isang bahay lang kami at parang kulang lagin yung time ko sa wife and daughter ko.

Any advise on how I could get through this situation?

Sana kumita pa nang mas malaki so we can afford our own house na talaga. Hirap din kasi mag rent parang balewala yung hinuhulog mo monthly.

[1D4LV]

hwag mo na isipin yung rent expense mo, ganun talaga yun.

it will make you more comfortable, your wife more comfortable and your kids growing up not spoiled if you move out.
hindi ka maka decision ng maayos nyan, yung wife mo, hirap makisama pag andun kayo in one roof.

everybody does or went through it.

ako before, we rented for three years before we got our own house..... ok lang yung nawala na rent expenses, mababawi mo rin naman yun. kaya hwag manghinayang.

[marktams86]

hwag mo na isipin yung rent expense mo, ganun talaga yun.

it will make you more comfortable, your wife more comfortable and your kids growing up not spoiled if you move out.
hindi ka maka decision ng maayos nyan, yung wife mo, hirap makisama pag andun kayo in one roof.

everybody does or went through it.

ako before, we rented for three years before we got our own house..... ok lang yung nawala na rent expenses, mababawi mo rin naman yun. kaya hwag manghinayang.

thanks for your inputs sir.. sana nga lang we could also afford to rent.. eh ngayon pa nga lang lagi pa rin kami nabibitin sa budget what more kung kami na lahat magbayad, meralco, water, etc... haay buhay...

[1D4LV]

thanks for your inputs sir.. sana nga lang we could also afford to rent.. eh ngayon pa nga lang lagi pa rin kami nabibitin sa budget what more kung kami na lahat magbayad, meralco, water, etc... haay buhay...

adjust lang sa ibang gastos like kain sa labas, etc.
get even a small space.... maski 2 bedrooms lang.....
kami dati, net pay namin is 7k/month lang, combined.
we still managed to rent out a space at 3k/month.
4k was left to spend for expenses like electricity, water and food.
ni mcdonalds nga nun, hindi kami makakain eh.

[marktams86]

Wow... ang galing nun ah... talagang sakripisyo lang... quite inspiring sir...

[Retz]

yan nga unang adivse ng cefam (center of family ministries in ateneo) during marriage counselling, stay away from your parents/biyenan after you get married.

[d'flash]

yan nga unang adivse ng cefam (center of family ministries in ateneo) during marriage counselling, stay away from your parents/biyenan after you get married.

pero dapat tuloy tuloy pa din ang ibinigay na suporta sakanila

[1D4LV]

its biblical....

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

[mateomarco]

adjust lang sa ibang gastos like kain sa labas, etc.
get even a small space.... maski 2 bedrooms lang.....
kami dati, net pay namin is 7k/month lang, combined.
we still managed to rent out a space at 3k/month.
4k was left to spend for expenses like electricity, water and food.
ni mcdonalds nga nun, hindi kami makakain eh.

Just to inspire further, how are you doing now financially?

[d'flash]

Just to inspire further, how are you doing now financially?

mayaman na yan si sir 1D4LV