Dealing with In-laws...!!!...

[3GEMS]

Tips naman guys alam ko marami satin dito sa tsikot problemadong sorry pamilyadong tao na...
magkalapit lang kami house ng partner ko, so family niya lagi namin kasama... minsan kasi hindi maiiwasan hindi pag kakasunduan...
sample scenario pagbabawalan ko minsan sasama si partner(wife) aalis kasama si sister niya, maya maya nagsusumbong na partner ko sakin kesyo ganito daw kesyo ganun sinasabi ng sister niya... ayaw ko naman magkasira kami balang araw... ugali ko kasi talagang sumasagot sa nakakatanda basta alam ko tama ako...
kung madali lang lumipat ng bahay hay nako


share niyo narin happy moments niyo with in-laws

[vinj]

The one, important thing is to live far away from them. They're in the province and we're here in Metro Manila.

But seriously, if you can move out and be on your own and build your own lives, that helps a lot. Even my own siblings and I had much better relationships when we all moved out and had our own place. It also made family get-togethers more meaningful.

I just listen to them, be nice and give them thoughtful gifts or messages on special occasions (thankfully my in-laws are very nice and simple people anyway). I join family activities when we visit them and we take them out when they're in Manila. When i stay in their house when we visit, I also keep to my own or stay outside and just interact with them mostly during and after meals. My wife and her siblings all have their own lives and don't interfere much with each other. Walang hinahabol na kayaman or assets and they're all self reliant after graduating from college. They may give opinion on certain things and if there are disagreements, the decision is up to the person the issue concerns.

[galant E SS]

The one, important thing is to live far away from them. They're in the province and we're here in Metro Manila.

But seriously, if you can move out and be on your own and build your own lives, that helps a lot. Even my own siblings and I had much better relationships when we all moved out and had our own place. It also made family get-togethers more meaningful.

I just listen to them, be nice and give them thoughtful gifts or messages on special occasions (thankfully my in-laws are very nice and simple people anyway). I join family activities when we visit them and we take them out when they're in Manila. When i stay in their house when we visit, I also keep to my own or stay outside and just interact with them mostly during and after meals. My wife and her siblings all have their own lives and don't interfere much with each other. Walang hinahabol na kayaman or assets and they're all self reliant after graduating from college. They may give opinion on certain things and if there are disagreements, the decision is up to the person the issue concerns.

I strongly agree with you bro. Minsan ay naiisipan ko na ring umalis na lang dito sa probinsya, kalimotan ang lahat at lumayo. Ang dami naming naging problema ni mrs. since nag-asawa kami, sa family ko at sa in-laws ko.

[vinj]

Ayun, yan ang problema. When she transmitted your statement to the in-laws, medyo masama ang dating.
Naturally, their reaction would be "What an A***", this guy".

Next time, lessen the Sarcasm when dealing with the in-laws. SUPER SENSITIVE mga yan.

Try mo lnstaed "Hon, I was looking forward to spending the day together sana...." So when your wife makes kwento to her family, it will come out Positive.

sabayan mo din kaya ng layas? pag umalis siya e di umalis ka din, magbihis ka din at unahan mo pang bumaba. at mas late ka pa dumating. dumating ng lasing at amoy pabango ng babae. at pag tinanong ka saan ka galingg sabihin mo e naghahanap ka ng kapalit nya kasi lagi naman siya wala sa tabi mo. bigyan na ng ultimatum yan. sa tingin ko e hindi pa pumapasok sa isip ng asawa mo na misis na siya at hindi na miss lang. nasa sa kanya naman yan kung mas gusto nya nakadikit sa kapatid nya o sa iyo. tanungin mo kaya kung sakaling ikaw at kapatid nya e nasa danger kung sino sa inyo ang uunahin nya. huwag mo na antayin ang sagot, unahan mo na na alam mo na kung sino uunahin nya, kapatid nya. sabay layas.

pabasa mo sa kanya ito ng matauhan yan.

Tama itong kay Hein and Yebo when you look at both views together; It's really about finding the balance of knowing where you are, being diplomatic in getting a message across, and letting the other party realize that your the husband and that you have greater bearing in her life now.

Malakas din uminom father-in-law ko. Tubig na sa kanya ang San Miguel at kelangan 24/7 mayroon nito sa ref nila. :D Asawa ko walang problema sa in-laws niya dahil parehong wala na.

I strongly agree with you bro. Minsan ay naiisipan ko na ring umalis na lang dito sa probinsya, kalimotan ang lahat at lumayo. Ang dami naming naging problema ni mrs. since nag-asawa kami, sa family ko at sa in-laws ko.

There are times when you just have to realize when it's time to cut clean. Hanap ka muna ng work sa Manila or at another city then use that as a premise to move your family eventually.

[galant E SS]

There are times when you just have to realize when it's time to cut clean. Hanap ka muna ng work sa Manila or at another city then use that as a premise to move your family eventually.

vinj, naisip ko na yan dati. But I can't sacrifice the comfort and convenience ng buhay namin dito sa developing city in a province. Besides, we already have established a strong network of connections here, people love and respect us because most people know who we are. Yon nga lang, dagdag gastos ang solicitations. More or less, pareho din lang ang income na kaya kong/naming kitain in Manila or other cities. Almost 2 years na kami ni mrs. nag-a-apartment, umalis kami sa bahay ng parents ko, kasi yong mother ko ang usal na mahilig makialam. Di naman nakikialam sa amin ang mother-in-law ko, deceased na rin ang father-in-law ko. Yon nga lang, kung anong problema ng family nya, parating affected si mrs. Naiinis na rin ako kasi kami ang nagpaaral at nakapa-graduate sa 3 brothers nya at hanggang 2nd year college yong 1 pinsan nya. More than half milliopn na rin if we will compute our expenses in helping her family. Tapos, I still doubt that my wife is still giving financial support to my mother-in-law tapos sa 1 bro.-in-law ko na walang trabaho, pareho sila ng live-in partner nya na walang trabaho pero 2 na ang anak. yong 1 bro. in law ko na nag-uumpisa pa lang magtrabaho, at single pa is living with us.

Kaya di ko pinapakialaman kung magkano ang take home pay ni mrs. Bahala na syang bumili ng mga gamit ng mga bata kung gusto nya, at bumibili naman pa-minsan-minsan, & sya rin ang nagbabayad sa tel. & internet billls. Then, ako naman ang humahawak ng budget ng family, mas malaki kasi ang income ko kay mrs., almost 2 times higher than her salary. Pero binibigyan ko pa sya ng pang-allowance nya at pambili ng mga gamit na gusto nya pero nire-regulate ko rin para maka-control sa expenses. Mas marunong akong mag-budget at mas matipid kaysa kay mrs. ok na rin sa amin ang ganitong klaseng financial arrangement.

Sabagay, kasalanan ko rin kasi nag-asawa ako ng mahirap. I am suffering the consequences of my lustful acts.

But I also love my wife. We are happily married for almost 10 years with 2 daughters and one son. Actually, she's demanding that we now have a church wedding at catholic church. ayaw ko sana pero, pagbibigyan ko na lang. pera lang naman ang mawawala, I want to buy peace.

Kaya kung minsan, naiisip naming mag-migrate sa ibang lugar para walang pakialaman, pero alam ko, kahit na saan kami pumunta, my wife will still give financial support to her family. Alam ko naman na nagseselos ang mother ko kay mrs. kasi nga malaki na ang nagastos namin ni mrs. sa pamilya nya samantalang barya lang sa side ko.

My mother used to blame me that I got married to a poor lady at the age of 23 while studying in the college of law and working as a govt. employee. I answered that it was their fault because I could not have meet my wife if they let me study in a better law school in Manila or other cities. I could have married a rich girl or someone who belong to a middle class family. Kasalanan din naman ng parents ko, I am the youngest among their 4 children, tapos yong 3 siblings ko nong time na yon (2000-2004) were in Manila and dependent upon them for support. Samantalang ako, nasa province na nga, self-supporting sa pag-aaral ng abogasya habang nagtatrabaho, sinisingil pa ng board and lodging sa sarili naming bahay. Moreover, here in our province, most beautiful women at their early 20's are in Manila or other cities. either studying or working, so, during that time, beautiful women here in our province were like endangered species. So, when I met my wife, even if she's not my dream girl, I have no other better choice than her. Our relationship lasted for 1 year, sya ang pinakamatagal kong GF hanggang sa mabuntis sya. Kung nasa Manila sana ako nong time na yon, baka inabot ako ng 28-30 bago nag asawa sa dami ng pwede kong maging GFs at sa dami ng pwedeng pagpilian; or kung nakabuntis man ako at nag-asawa ng maaga, galing din sana sa may kayang pamilya because poor promdi's cannot afford to study in Manila or other bigger cities.

But I got to move on. Life is not a bed of roses. I need to be happy for what I am and what I have right now. Pasalamat din ako at magaganda at gwapo and healthy ang mga anak ko. Maganda rin ang relationship namin ni mrs., bigayan lang sa wants and needs ng bawat isa, and she's a good mother to my children. Hanggang dito na lang muna ang pang-MMK story ko.

[renzo_d10]

isipin mo nalang na kapag andito ka sa maynila, mas maraming temptations, mas malaki chance na masira pamilya mo

be thankful na onti lang ang "fresh fishes" dyan

yung binabayad mo sa mga kapatid nya yan yung price of having your family strong & intact for nearly a decade

nagbabayad ka lang kumbaga

hirap din if marami maganda nakapaligid sayo

mas madali ka magsasawa sa babaeng kasama mo eh

gusto mo tumikim ng iba

ngayon kung walang maganda na pumapaligid sayo

wala ka urge para matikman sila

[Boy Bastos]

Haven't seen nor talked to my in-laws in years. Demonyo daw kasi ako, nasaniban ng demonyo anak niya at anak naman ng mga demonyo ang mga apo niya. Yes. INM ang in-laws ko.

At dahil hindi ko na sila nakikita eh di no problemo di ba. Effective and it worked!

:D

[Harangody]

Haven't seen nor talked to my in-laws in years. Demonyo daw kasi ako, nasaniban ng demonyo anak niya at anak naman ng mga demonyo ang mga apo niya. Yes. INM ang in-laws ko.

At dahil hindi ko na sila nakikita eh di no problemo di ba. Effective and it worked!

:D

Ibang klase talaga mag-isip mga INM,

[holdencaulfield]

Ibang klase talaga mag-isip mga INM,

di naman lahat. may close buddies ako na INM at muslim. nung mga bata kami sila pa nag-yayaya mag simbang gabi. walang kagaguhan iyan. cool ang mga parents nila and they are one of my best budds from an old all boys catholic school in manila. my INM buddy married a catholic and never ever asked her to convert until some time the lady made a decision.

[galant E SS]

naalala ko tuloy ang joke ng pari one time na nagsimba kami ni mrs. sabi ng pari: ang ina ang ilaw ng tahanan, ang ama ang haligi ng tahanan, at ang byenan naman ang anay sa haligi.